[yor9790]

Some of you might remember me, most probably wont. been a very long time since i was active on the forums since me and my wife (met at ACen) moved to arizona. To make a long story very short, we might be moving back to illinois, but have no where to go! This is a call for help for any ACen member that is willing to help is NOT be on the streets when we get back, we will most likely be leaving in 48 hours by car back to the chicago area, and only have 3 hours of net time left, as we are at a library and using their net. PLEASE, anyone that can help reply as soon as you can, we dont want to be homeless and are in need of great help.



Yor9790 and visualkei_star

[yor9790]

Just found out from my mom that she is getting us one way train tickets back to chicago leaving tomorrow morning, dont know how long the train will take to get there and dont know what we will do when we do get to chicago, my hope is all but gone and having panic attacks every other minute.

[sentinel28a]

yor9790, on 02 November 2012 - 03:47 PM, said:

Just found out from my mom that she is getting us one way train tickets back to chicago leaving tomorrow morning, dont know how long the train will take to get there and dont know what we will do when we do get to chicago, my hope is all but gone and having panic attacks every other minute.

If you're coming from Arizona, it'll take you about 24-26 hours to get to Chicago. If you still don't have any place to stay, try and talk to one of the Amtrak representatives or someone who works at Union Station. (If nothing else, try a policeman.) They might could direct you to a shelter. It's not perfect and no fun, but it's better than being on the street. The trains usually arrive in the afternoon, so barring delays, you at least should have some daylight left.

I wish I could help you more, but I'm in Montana...why do you have to get back to Chicago in such a hurry?

Ben Da Mad Irishman

[KungPowKirby]

Look into a hostel. I just stayed at hostelling international that's by millenium park and its really cheap for a night. All you need is an out of state id to get there.

[Keiichi-chan]

KungPowKirby, on 03 November 2012 - 09:01 AM, said:

Look into a hostel. I just stayed at hostelling international that's by millenium park and its really cheap for a night. All you need is an out of state id to get there.

^was going to recommend this myself, as it's right by where i work, and super-cheap.





plenty of travelers from out of town, or out of the country, stay there; supposedly, it's plenty nice for the price, too.

[yor9790]

had to leave Az in such a hurry because my mom doesnt care what happens to her only son, told us she will get us back to chicago less then 24 hours before we left, no time to make arraignments for when we got up there. Don't know what to do, hostel is out of the question thanks to blowing through my last paycheck for food for the trip.

[The Fujoshi]

yor9790, on 04 November 2012 - 12:00 PM, said:

had to leave Az in such a hurry because my mom doesnt care what happens to her only son, told us she will get us back to chicago less then 24 hours before we left, no time to make arraignments for when we got up there. Don't know what to do, hostel is out of the question thanks to blowing through my last paycheck for food for the trip.

You don't have any other family members who can help anywhere? At least until you get another job? Or maybe you can try working in their house, etc.

Because the only option you have for free is a shelter here and a shelter isn't the best thing around. But you can try to get section 8 but you would have to stay in a shelter for a least a year before you get that.

[yor9790]

The Fujoshi, on 04 November 2012 - 01:08 PM, said:

You don't have any other family members who can help anywhere? At least until you get another job? Or maybe you can try working in their house, etc.

Because the only option you have for free is a shelter here and a shelter isn't the best thing around. But you can try to get section 8 but you would have to stay in a shelter for a least a year before you get that.

My family pretty much abandoned me, as for lili, her family hates me and most likely wont help just because of me. dont like the idea of a shelter but might be the only thing that we can do. I hate this so much that we cant get help and no one can help.

[yor9790]

Back in chicago now, and no shelters will take us together, havent found a place and no longer stressed, now filled with dread and hopelessness. may be my last post on the forums.

[Prayer Police]

If you don't mind me asking, how did it all lead to this?

[yor9790]

Prayer Police, on 05 November 2012 - 08:42 PM, said:

If you don't mind me asking, how did it all lead to this?

Sis told me that jobs were plenty down in her part of Az. she got me and lili train tickets and we moved, after 6 months of searching every day, no jobs were to be found, her husband, my brother-in-law, asked us to leave the house, we did, after a few days on the street, my mom got us tickets back to chicago and we are here, with no home and no hope.

[sentinel28a]

yor9790, on 05 November 2012 - 10:52 PM, said:

Sis told me that jobs were plenty down in her part of Az. she got me and lili train tickets and we moved, after 6 months of searching every day, no jobs were to be found, her husband, my brother-in-law, asked us to leave the house, we did, after a few days on the street, my mom got us tickets back to chicago and we are here, with no home and no hope.

Yor, take a deep breath and think this through.

First: will the shelters take you and your lady separately? If so, then that's what you do. You do not want to be on the streets in Chicago; even I (country bumpkin that I am) know that. In a shelter, you have a roof over your head and something to eat. You may be separated for a bit, but that beats freezing and starving, to say nothing of dealing with God knows what on the streets.

Second: what skills do you have? You'll have to find a job. There must be assistance for people like you in Chicago; it's a big city. It may end up being janitorial, temporary, or a McJob, but whatever gets the cash flow going. You did have something of a job in Arizona, because you mentioned a paycheck. Can you draw unemployment? Food stamps? Welfare? (I don't know how Illinois works regarding residency.)

Third: is there any way to reconcile with your brother-in-law or mother? I don't know what happened there and I won't speculate (none of my business), but informing them that you're literally on the street might change their minds about putting you there. I'm not sure what your mother thought would happen to you by essentially sending you on a one-way trip to Chicago. See if you can change their minds.

Fourth: don't give up. Keep fighting. Easy for me to say, sitting on my butt behind a computer in Montana with steady work...but I have been in a situation similar to yours (though not as bad). I managed to find a way out. You can too.

Wish I could do more for you than just encouragement, man. I do have some friends in northern Indiana. They couldn't take you in, but depending on your skill set, they might could point you in the right direction.

Keep us in the loop if you can, but above all, don't give up.

Ben Da Mad Irishman

[yor9790]

sentinel28a, on 05 November 2012 - 11:37 PM, said:

Yor, take a deep breath and think this through.

First: will the shelters take you and your lady separately? If so, then that's what you do. You do not want to be on the streets in Chicago; even I (country bumpkin that I am) know that. In a shelter, you have a roof over your head and something to eat. You may be separated for a bit, but that beats freezing and starving, to say nothing of dealing with God knows what on the streets.

Second: what skills do you have? You'll have to find a job. There must be assistance for people like you in Chicago; it's a big city. It may end up being janitorial, temporary, or a McJob, but whatever gets the cash flow going. You did have something of a job in Arizona, because you mentioned a paycheck. Can you draw unemployment? Food stamps? Welfare? (I don't know how Illinois works regarding residency.)

Third: is there any way to reconcile with your brother-in-law or mother? I don't know what happened there and I won't speculate (none of my business), but informing them that you're literally on the street might change their minds about putting you there. I'm not sure what your mother thought would happen to you by essentially sending you on a one-way trip to Chicago. See if you can change their minds.

Fourth: don't give up. Keep fighting. Easy for me to say, sitting on my butt behind a computer in Montana with steady work...but I have been in a situation similar to yours (though not as bad). I managed to find a way out. You can too.

Wish I could do more for you than just encouragement, man. I do have some friends in northern Indiana. They couldn't take you in, but depending on your skill set, they might could point you in the right direction.

Keep us in the loop if you can, but above all, don't give up.

Ben Da Mad Irishman

1st: no, no shelter will allow us to stay together once we get in their doors, and spliting us up would damn near kill her, i wont let that happen.
2nd: i had a job in az, but only for 2 weeks, not long enough to get unemployment, as for food stamps, we need to set them back up.
3rd: no way in hell, they know what they were doign when they shipped us back here, my mom has a cold heart and doesnt even care for her only son.
4th, i havent yet, if i had given up, i would not be here typing this up right now.

[KirbyFanOne]

yor9790, on 06 November 2012 - 12:17 AM, said:

1st: no, no shelter will allow us to stay together once we get in their doors, and spliting us up would damn near kill her, i wont let that happen.

"Damn near kill her" is not the same as "kill her." If this is the only option keeping you from a freezing Chicago winter, I think it is going to be your best bet. You will still have each other in some degree even if you are apart. I think this is one bullet you and her have to bite until your teeth crack and your jaw gets sore.

[sentinel28a]

yor9790, on 06 November 2012 - 12:17 AM, said:

1st: no, no shelter will allow us to stay together once we get in their doors, and spliting us up would damn near kill her, i wont let that happen.
2nd: i had a job in az, but only for 2 weeks, not long enough to get unemployment, as for food stamps, we need to set them back up.
3rd: no way in hell, they know what they were doign when they shipped us back here, my mom has a cold heart and doesnt even care for her only son.
4th, i havent yet, if i had given up, i would not be here typing this up right now.

1) See KirbyFan's reply. As far as family shelters go, I see two here on this list: Chicago Shelter List Admittedly, I don't know their parameters. Local churches might also be a possibility.

2) Were you fired from the job? If not, I think you can draw unemployment. I'm only going off what is done here in MT.

3) No way I can comment on that not knowing the situation, and it's none of my business.

4) Good.

What skills do you have? There might be people on the board who know of job openings.

Ben Da Mad Irishman

[yor9790]

AZ is a right to work state, like illinois, so they dont have to tell me why i am no longer employed, dont know if i was let go, or just fired. skills, a few, but its too late, we have to leave the hostel at 11 and have no money left in my account, spent the very last of it staying here and eating last night. Hope is gone, fear and despair is all i feel now, dont know what to do, panic is taking hold of my heart again and its killing me knowing i dragged her into this mess.

[Kitsu-chan]

While not the greatest job, have you tried Food 4 Less? We've got 2 or 3 stores in Chicago. I can even pm ya my contact info to use as reference. Not sure if it'll help much, but I've been with the company for just shy of 8yrs.

Can't help much a for shelters since I live bout 50 miles south. I'll try asking a few friends that live in Chicago.

As for food,near the end of the nite try any non-24hr fast food. From experience when I was homeless, they normally have food that otherwise gets thrown out.

[dorkatlarge]

Yor9790, be sure to look into Journeys when you get a chance. Their main office is in Palatine, and a modest distance from the Arlington Park stop on the Metra Northwest trains.

[yor9790]

dorkatlarge, on 07 November 2012 - 05:25 AM, said:

Yor9790, be sure to look into Journeys when you get a chance. Their main office is in Palatine, and a modest distance from the Arlington Park stop on the Metra Northwest trains.

already looked into that, same as the others, and even if they could take us in, no cash to get out there, ran out of cash and havent had anything to eat for 2 days now.

[Valkyrie]

I'm going to be srraight with you: at this point, you literally cannot afford to be choosy or stubborn. If you have to go to separate shelters, even temporarily, then do so. You will starve and/or freeze to death otherwise.

[yor9790]

Valkyrie, on 07 November 2012 - 11:49 AM, said:

I'm going to be srraight with you: at this point, you literally cannot afford to be choosy or stubborn. If you have to go to separate shelters, even temporarily, then do so. You will starve and/or freeze to death otherwise.

you dont think i dont already know that? lili told me herself that she cant sleep in a room with others if i'm not next to her, we are not being picky, we are doing what we can so our mental and physical health are not messed up anymore then what they are.

[Dark Stranger]

I don't know how it'll work. But I'll help you anyway I can. even If I do get in trouble with my landlord for having more then me living here.

[Saka12]

Did u ever find a place??