Nerds and Male Priveledge...a discussion
#1
Posted 04 April 2012 - 09:11 PM
Read and discuss. I found this to be a very interesting and thought provoking article.
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#2
Posted 04 April 2012 - 09:33 PM
Now as a woman, I concur that the special treatment of women is taking it a step too far if we ARE included in the nerdy/geek community whereas on the other spectrum being treated as if you aren't knowledgeable is also out of line. The point of this article, in my opinion, is that women need to be treated as EQUALS and not one biased end of a scale.
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#3
Posted 04 April 2012 - 10:33 PM
And it's a damn shame.
Not to mention infuriating that I essentially have to "deceive" people into thinking I have a penis to suddenly become a valid human being. *rage*
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#4
Posted 04 April 2012 - 11:56 PM
#5
Posted 05 April 2012 - 04:02 AM
As much as he wants to proclaim it exists in all aspects of nerd fandom, anime is perhaps the one where it is lessened. Yes it exists, yes there are still those annoying white knight guys who feel like they have to be the savior of every damsel in distress, but anime is like the only nerd faction where there are actually more women then men. At least publicly. Anime conventions typically have a larger female than male attendance.
Its still a problem and any sensible human being will tell you as such. Being that I am also quite into video games, the way women get treated is abysmal. Every guy wants that girlfriend who plays video games, yet do everything they can to alienate her and make her not want to play video games.
And I don't mean to sound like that annoying guy, but seriously, most of the gender jokes are played out. Get back to the kitchen, women can't be on the internet, lolololololol. You're unfunny and unoriginal. If you're going to be joking about it, at least come up with some new material.
On the flip side to this article, for every one instance you hear of people doing that and complaining about it, there are 10 people who respond who don't do that. People tend to remember the bad and not the good. I'm a fairly avid League of Legends player who often plays with 1 or more female teammates. I hardly ever see them get harassed for it. And we're said to have one of the worst communities out there.
The other flip side to this article is how many women play up their sexuality for in game favors. If we're going to ostracize men for their faults, its important to note the women who do this as well, especially in MMOs.
The point is that the whole gender issue is crap. Who cares what race, sexuality, gender, whatever your teammate is as long as they play try their best to win and we all have fun.
#6
Posted 05 April 2012 - 09:03 AM
As a survivor of a brutal rape, I report and block anyone who ever says it while I play an MMO/XBL game.
But, apparently, I'm the one that makes a huge deal out of nothing, and I've been kicked out of groups for protesting people use the word.
Articles like this sadly only reinforce the stereotypes. What gamers need to do is embrace each other, male and female alike, and enjoy our shared love of gaming. Doesn't matter if you have a Y chromosome or not.
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#7
Posted 05 April 2012 - 09:10 AM
myrla, on 05 April 2012 - 09:03 AM, said:
As a survivor of a brutal rape, I report and block anyone who ever says it while I play an MMO/XBL game.
But, apparently, I'm the one that makes a huge deal out of nothing, and I've been kicked out of groups for protesting people use the word.
Articles like this sadly only reinforce the stereotypes. What gamers need to do is embrace each other, male and female alike, and enjoy our shared love of gaming. Doesn't matter if you have a Y chromosome or not.
Well-said
#8
Posted 05 April 2012 - 09:36 AM
myrla, on 05 April 2012 - 09:03 AM, said:
As a survivor of a brutal rape, I report and block anyone who ever says it while I play an MMO/XBL game.
But, apparently, I'm the one that makes a huge deal out of nothing, and I've been kicked out of groups for protesting people use the word.
Articles like this sadly only reinforce the stereotypes. What gamers need to do is embrace each other, male and female alike, and enjoy our shared love of gaming. Doesn't matter if you have a Y chromosome or not.
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Sadly I read this article and I had to relate because this can relate to a lot of things: online and other wise. When I play MMO games as a girl, a lot of guys expect me to either be a guy or that I must be a hot girl with a big rack that is lonely and needs a man in life.
I wish that girls and guys who are nerds could get along without being bias.
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#9
Posted 05 April 2012 - 01:34 PM
I also explode when someone decides to use the word "rape" so casually, since a family memeber is a rape survivor. And of course, I'm simply overreacting when I boot them out of the guild or snap at them in raid and should just calm my silly female feelings.
Sigh.
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#10
Posted 05 April 2012 - 01:54 PM
Wingy Baby, on 05 April 2012 - 01:34 PM, said:
I also explode when someone decides to use the word "rape" so casually, since a family memeber is a rape survivor. And of course, I'm simply overreacting when I boot them out of the guild or snap at them in raid and should just calm my silly female feelings.
Sigh.
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#11
Posted 05 April 2012 - 01:55 PM
but this guy was just scum, the idea he knows that females gamers are worse players then male conterpart is just the top, he also yelled at the top of his lungs for this girl to goback to the kithen, he is also very racist, ues the N word more then a kind man says please and thank you.
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#12
Posted 05 April 2012 - 02:54 PM
I for one play Old School Dice Games. Dungeons and Dragons. Rifts. World of Darkness. 7th Sea.
Dice Nerd games, as I am one. It happens there as well, sadly. For one, in my experience, there aren't too many female Dice Nerds out there (let alone single ones), most the ones I've met are playing in the game because their boyfriend is also playing. So the reaction is one of two things. Either I am treated as if I have no idea how to play the games (all of which I know very very well) and any mistake or bad roll I make is because I'm a n00b and a girl) or I am seen as the "desiginated love interest" within the party and the other characters want to hook up with mine because I'll obviously play to my gender.
And even on that level, it is also always assumed that when I play, I will play a "magic character" such as a wizard or sorcerer and that my race will be a "pretty race" such as Elves, humans, halfelves etc. That a girl (ghasp!) might play a male "Meatsheild" (barbarian/fighter) is just unheard of. And while I've personally never experienced it, I have heard from other female gamers that they have had that awkward time where the DM/GM will offer to give them extra XP/A cool item/what have you...if they give them "favors" in return.
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#13
Posted 05 April 2012 - 03:34 PM
myrla, on 05 April 2012 - 01:54 PM, said:
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#14
Posted 05 April 2012 - 06:02 PM
Is it safe to say that there are far more males that play video games and read comic books, than females? If you were a large corporation, is your goal to increase revenues or to care about people's feelings? Men are attracted to women physically and women are attracted to men emotionally. Women are depicted that way due to the target demographics. It's all marketing. It really sucks and I don't condone this sort of behavior for even a fraction of a second, but honestly, if the corporations I hold stocks in came out one day and said, "we decided not to care about profits anymore, but instead decided to care only about people's feelings," chances are that my stocks in the company would plummet the next day and I would be one pissed off shareholder. Is it because I'm inconsiderate and insensitive? Absolutely not! I was raised by women all my life. A woman is someone's daughter, mother, sister, aunt, niece, or grandma. I buy stocks for the sole purpose of profits. Companies are in business for the sole purpose of profits. It's a reality, whether you plan to accept it or not.
Women were considered housewives almost 50 years ago. In those days, women would take care of the children, the house, the food, the laundry, etc. (not because they wanted to, but because the society did not allow them to hold jobs or careers). Men were the breadwinners. They brought the monetary income, home. Educated, steady jobs, etc. Ladies, the next time a man tries to stereotype you for a 50 year old (dead) culture of America, tell them you will. Tell them you will go back to the kitchen and clean something, as long as they get their lazy a$$ off the couch and get an education, a steady job, and provide for you. Guys, if you can't provide a comfortable life for your woman, shut up and make your own d*mn sandwich. It's like legos, it's not hard to do. If you can't, I'd say you have bigger things in life to worry about.
I know how guys can be. Put a whole bunch of alpha male wannabes together, protected behind a computer screen. Talking about how tough they are and degrading women. Safely tucked away behind an IP address. They could never tell you to go back to the kitchen in a heavily populated area because of guys like me (and there are a lot of us) that'll have no problem slapping them sideways. Women will love you and revolve their entire world around you, but you have the responsibility of making them feel safe in your arms. You have the responsibility of maintaining their happiness and being their level of support. My mother used to always tell me... when someone helps you, you help them back. When a woman loves you, you love them back twice. When someone hurts her, you kill him three times. (Sounds better in Korean). =D
All in all, regardless of how media depicts men and women, reality is what matters. Truth is, nothing in life is free and almost everything is a trade-off.
Women, if you want to be pursued, take care of yourself. You don't have to dress like a concubine. Just be healthy. Work out regularly, don't be so pessimistic about everything that happens in life. Be the girl in the jeans, t-shirt, and baseball cap because you'll get MY attention if we end up talking and you're a really sweet person. If you dress like a comic book woman, you'll be treated like one. You may have to wait longer for a guy like me to notice you in plain clothes, but I promise you, guys like me are worth waiting for. If not, there's always the latter.
Men, you want to be an alpha male (I know you all do). Degrading women and being tough behind a computer screen is not alpha male, it's not even respectable. The only people that find it amusing are you and your friends. No one is telling you to change. If there weren't people like you, guys like me would have soft knuckles, so we thank you. Comic book women and real women are different. If you want to fall in love with a real woman, learn real values like respect, manners, kindness, sensitivity. Leave the tough fighter attributes for when they matter. If you're more into comic book women and the degradation of, well, let's hope you never lose your right hand.
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#16
Posted 09 April 2012 - 01:49 AM
Wingy Baby, on 05 April 2012 - 01:34 PM, said:
I also explode when someone decides to use the word "rape" so casually, since a family memeber is a rape survivor. And of course, I'm simply overreacting when I boot them out of the guild or snap at them in raid and should just calm my silly female feelings.
Sigh.
Never really had a problem in vent playing WoW, but only because my guild is pretty awesome and I rarely speak on vent in PUGs, except to say hi or if something is of urgent importance. I does help that the GM of my guild is also female and doesn't take that kind of junk from anyone. There was a crack made last raid I was in about the only females in the group being healers, but only because it was purely a coincidence (my main is a hunter, we were low on healers that night). In PUGs however it's a whole different story. I find it both sad and amusing the reactions I get when they find out the tank is a skinny little blood elf.
I also rarely talk in vent due to a slight stutter/speech impediment. Though I seem to do it more when speaking in vent then talking IRL.
The difference in genders between anime and video games is also something I've noticed. The overt "alpha male" (ha) attitudes tend to drive a lot of female gamers away. Myself included. Anime just strikes me as a bit more all inclusive in that regard. Not to say that sexism there doesn't exist as well.
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#17
Posted 09 April 2012 - 02:13 AM
DaphHime, on 09 April 2012 - 01:49 AM, said:
They are not alpha males. Alpha males are leaders. What do leaders do? They sacrafice themselves before others. People that make fun of others are NOT leaders. Therefore, they aren't alpha males. I think the word Alpha male gets a bad rep on these forums because they're wrongly represented.
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#18
Posted 09 April 2012 - 02:41 AM
The 'male privilege' will always exist in some ways but honestly, with gaming becoming more widespread, this will slowly decrease. Look at how many more people in general play more games like on the iPhone and FB! There's a huge community of women that play games on fb like farmville. I was so surprised when my Mom was so avid about a game! I told her that shed love Harvest Moon then. With technology being so easily at hand older non gamers are now introduced to something they can play and understand. Sure most games will appeal to the male population and that's just marketing. Go to a toys r us. You can easily tell which aisle is for boys and which massive sea of pink is for girls. That's just how it is. I never let that stop me from playing with boy toys even if some characters are huge breasted fanservice girls. So I guess the only way for the gaming industry to really change and make it treat everyone equally it is society that has to change first because the gaming industry caters to their customers like any other business.
#19
Posted 09 April 2012 - 01:16 PM
While I know im only ranting about one part of this argument, the real issue shouldn't be a issue at all. Take for instance that guy who said something sexist to a female contender in a tournoment. Then when confronted said something along the lines of, "you can't ecapse it [sexisim] in fighting games. It's there, deal with it". And instead of everyone saying, "wow that guys a jerk". They instead throw up all these lines like, "why can't we nerds be better then this?" or "Why is nerd culture still so sexist?" or so on. All they do is try and connect some sort of line in whatever social thing be it sexism, racism, or whatever in nerd culture instead of just judging that person for their own actions. Stop assuming something is wrong with my culture and just start looking at the person instead of what they surround themselves with.
end rant.
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#21
Posted 10 April 2012 - 09:39 PM
I very rarely play online multi-player games, so I'm a bit oblivious to how some men act when they know a woman is playing. I can guess it goes as the article author says, at least some of the time.
I think I agree with the comment by Shinta more than the article itself.
On a related note, why are some Anime like Panty & Stocking so popular and cosplayed so much? Even just the name itself (and the outfits...) puts women into a certain type of sex-related box (I haven't seen the show, so I have no idea about the content).
#22
Posted 11 April 2012 - 11:57 PM
#23
Posted 12 April 2012 - 01:09 AM
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:39 AM
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Posted 12 April 2012 - 11:07 AM
FlyingElf, on 11 April 2012 - 11:57 PM, said:

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Sarahlicious, on 12 April 2012 - 06:39 AM, said:
I use to buy the occasional tuner magazine. I bet it is a lot worse than the anime/scifi culture.
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#26
Posted 12 April 2012 - 06:12 PM
On the videogame side of things, I go back to the whole issue with the fighting community. Again I think a lot of the whole thing about Comics and games comes from the idea that they were ment more for boys. Women's comics were pulled down after the 50s and 60s, since less women started to read them. Although there has been some headway, see the new awesome Captian Marvel in the form of Carol Danvers, or Wonder Woman, there's still some work to be done. I remember reading an article in Wizard years ago, in it the then Editor of the Avengers stated that the then EIC, Joe Qusada, stated that he wanted one artist to draw because of the way he drew women's boobs.
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#27
Posted 13 April 2012 - 02:45 AM
Dark Stranger, on 09 April 2012 - 01:16 PM, said:
While I know im only ranting about one part of this argument, the real issue shouldn't be a issue at all. Take for instance that guy who said something sexist to a female contender in a tournoment. Then when confronted said something along the lines of, "you can't ecapse it [sexisim] in fighting games. It's there, deal with it". And instead of everyone saying, "wow that guys a jerk". They instead throw up all these lines like, "why can't we nerds be better then this?" or "Why is nerd culture still so sexist?" or so on. All they do is try and connect some sort of line in whatever social thing be it sexism, racism, or whatever in nerd culture instead of just judging that person for their own actions. Stop assuming something is wrong with my culture and just start looking at the person instead of what they surround themselves with.
end rant.
*deep breath*
Okay, great. Congratulations. You play games and watch anime to relax from busting your butt. So do I. Except, you don't have to deal with the sexism. For you, the most annoying thing is the complaining. For me, nothing ruins a lovely session of relieving stress and venting frustration at the expense of the lives of some pixels quite like sexist comments. Or getting hit on in what can sometimes be incredibly creepy ways. Being told by random strangers that you're hot, or sexy, or that you should get married, is not an enjoyable experience. Being called a dumb b**** is also not fun. And being told to get in the kitchen and to go make a sandwich is only funny when it's said by a close friend who knows that I know that they're joking (they also know that if I go to the kitchen to make a sandwich, it's so I can eat it in front of them with a smile on my face).
Furthermore? You've probably never had to worry about going to your local game shop alone for fear of being hit on by the guys that frequent the place. Trust me, I'd love to be able to go to my local shop on my own, but the stories I've heard from my friends of their experiences, alone, are enough to keep me from ever feeling comfortable doing so.
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#28
Posted 13 April 2012 - 08:26 AM
Kaay-chan, on 13 April 2012 - 02:45 AM, said:
Okay, great. Congratulations. You play games and watch anime to relax from busting your butt. So do I. Except, you don't have to deal with the sexism. For you, the most annoying thing is the complaining. For me, nothing ruins a lovely session of relieving stress and venting frustration at the expense of the lives of some pixels quite like sexist comments. Or getting hit on in what can sometimes be incredibly creepy ways. Being told by random strangers that you're hot, or sexy, or that you should get married, is not an enjoyable experience. Being called a dumb b**** is also not fun. And being told to get in the kitchen and to go make a sandwich is only funny when it's said by a close friend who knows that I know that they're joking (they also know that if I go to the kitchen to make a sandwich, it's so I can eat it in front of them with a smile on my face).
Furthermore? You've probably never had to worry about going to your local game shop alone for fear of being hit on by the guys that frequent the place. Trust me, I'd love to be able to go to my local shop on my own, but the stories I've heard from my friends of their experiences, alone, are enough to keep me from ever feeling comfortable doing so.
Some of that sounds like how society is in general. Men are pushed and expected to be the pursuer in relationship matters, and often the term creepy is a label that gets placed on them. Maybe the difference there is that the men in the gaming culture have a lot less opportunity with women, are more awkward, and are generally not as good at being social than the random person you meet on the street.
The comments about being in a kitchen and the dumb b**** are certainly something that's part of that rude jerk guy culture though.
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#29
Posted 13 April 2012 - 10:45 AM
Kaay-chan, on 13 April 2012 - 02:45 AM, said:
Okay, great. Congratulations. You play games and watch anime to relax from busting your butt. So do I. Except, you don't have to deal with the sexism. For you, the most annoying thing is the complaining. For me, nothing ruins a lovely session of relieving stress and venting frustration at the expense of the lives of some pixels quite like sexist comments. Or getting hit on in what can sometimes be incredibly creepy ways. Being told by random strangers that you're hot, or sexy, or that you should get married, is not an enjoyable experience.
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#30
Posted 13 April 2012 - 11:02 AM
Wanted to add, I dunno how often guys hit on you, but also as Scott said, it's how nature works. Are they being respectful? Then years of socialization is to blame, but if its whistles and obvious "hey girl, let me holla at ya" then I see the problem. Seeing a girl interested in games (coming from a society where other girls look down at it) some might try to jump at it. Is it annoying to you? Maybe, but how are they suppose to know. Yeah you want to go and be left alone, but as long as it is respectful, its not hurtful. (convince other girls to be the pursuer and it might calm down. Lol we know that won't happen. Btw that was a joke before someone gets butthurt. Lol)
Edit: okay it is disrespectful, yeah most what I said was moot. Tho to those who do have respectful ones, what I said applies.
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