[The Fujoshi]

sentinel28a, on 04 February 2011 - 03:44 PM, said:

In other words, I like having my own place to myself, being able to do what I want, when I want. If I want to go to ACen, I'm glad not to have a nagging wife telling me I can't. If I want to salivate over catgirls on the internet, I'm glad that no one is giving me hell for finding two-dimensional anthropomorphic hybirds to be sexy.

You ever try dating an otaku? Usually people marry or get into relationships with others that have somewhat the same interest in you. Me and my ex bf never had this issue with going to cons, looking at hentai, or even porn in general. Actually the reason we broke up was due to me having an issue with him flirting with much much younger women and belittling me, (while he was at cons and in general; they used to compare me to Rei from Breath of Fire.)

Actually the reason why I was single for a long time was because I had a kid and he came first. Also I came from two bad relationships; my first boyfriend ended in a tradegy and we broke off badly and my second bf wasn't the best material, husband or father. He changed after I had the kid and I couldn't take it anymore after six years.

So I waited, and after a few misses, I end up finding my bf now. We been together for only a few months but I really care about him. We are both otakus, we play video games, and we like to cosplay. He's Japanese so we have lost in translation moments but we work together.

All I'm saying is that you can find someone you just have to wait and be patient. Sometimes it takes some effort on your part and sometimes it doesn't.

[LADY SAKURA]

well its only been a year and im not in any rush to have a boyfriend and for the most part im just too lazy to put in any more efforts for another one atleast not now gosh 5yrs with someone i need to enjoy being by myself and im having fun nothing i really worry about the whole being single thing blah just means more money to spend on myself i get to hang with whoever i want to and i don't have to sit and worry about if he is off doing something shady ick no thanks let me be alone for now lol

[Keiichi-chan]

wrexness, on 04 February 2011 - 04:39 PM, said:

I'm single by choice. I had been in a relationship for four years, and after I got out of it I had a bit of a weight lifted off of my shoulders. Not that it was anything wrong with her, but it was feeling like it was more of a responsibility to go out every week with her. (It certainly didn't hurt that while I was dating her I was working 24 hours a week and on campus pretty much the rest of the time working on senior project. Total burnout, I think was the ultimate problem.) Right now I am only concerned about myself and doing stuff that makes me happy. I feel that I really have to take care of my selfish ways now so they don't pop up in the middle of a marriage later on. XD

this is a really great attitude overall.

i really wish more people in this thread could take on a similar outlook, but i guess if you're a twentysomething who has never, EVER had a gf or bf, you start to feel desperate and insecure like something's wrong with you-- it's not.

This post has been edited by Keiichi-chan: 04 February 2011 - 04:57 PM

[XenoBlade]

Keiichi-chan, on 04 February 2011 - 04:55 PM, said:

this is a really great attitude overall.

i really wish more people in this thread could take on a similar outlook, but i guess if you're a twentysomething who has never, EVER had a gf or bf, you start to feel desperate and insecure like something's wrong with you-- it's not.

Seriously, ain't that the truth. But it's another one of those unwritten laws.

Btw, you KNOW I'm true about the whole asian business. lol

This post has been edited by XenoBlade: 04 February 2011 - 05:00 PM

[Prayer Police]

You guys just need to find your matta.

[Isamu]

Seems I never get past asking the ladies for a psychological evaluation.

[sentinel28a]

Keiichi-chan, on 04 February 2011 - 04:55 PM, said:

this is a really great attitude overall.

i really wish more people in this thread could take on a similar outlook, but i guess if you're a twentysomething who has never, EVER had a gf or bf, you start to feel desperate and insecure like something's wrong with you-- it's not.

That's a good point. I went through that phase of desperation, which wasn't helped by some "friends" who were keeping a running score of women they'd slept with, and never missed an opportunity to remind me that I was "way behind." It ruined a potential friendship when I pushed too far and asked the wrong question at the wrong time. She told me to get lost, and I'm glad she did. It would've been bad for both of us had it progressed any farther.

Now? I've reached the "I don't give a damn" stage, and I'm a lot happier. There's no pressure. Sure, I get lonely sometimes. But I tell myself that I'd rather be a little lonely than stuck playing mindgames or worse, stuck in a marriage playing mindgames.

Fujoshi, I've never found an otaku I'd be willing to date. There's not a ton of them in Nowheresville, MT, so my choices would be very limited ones, and the ones I find attractive are already taken. If I lived in a big city like Chicago, maybe things would be different.

Ben Da Mad Irishman
"I'll just propose to Isamu"

[FlyingElf]

Easy. Haven't found the right person yet. I'm not going to settle just to be in a relationship...ever...

[Lina]

FlyingElf, on 04 February 2011 - 05:31 PM, said:

Easy. Haven't found the right person yet. I'm not going to settle just to be in a relationship...ever...

You're just waiting for me to be single. No need to be shy about it. -hair flip-


I'm kidding. XD

This post has been edited by Lina: 04 February 2011 - 05:37 PM

[FlyingElf]

Lina, on 04 February 2011 - 05:36 PM, said:

You're just waiting for me to be single. No need to be shy about it. -hair flip-


I'm kidding. XD

Oh Lina...But don't tell the other girls. I don't want them to get jealous.

[Lina]

FlyingElf, on 04 February 2011 - 05:43 PM, said:

Oh Lina...But don't tell the other girls. I don't want them to get jealous.

Oh Felf. Let them be jealous of our love. -hair flows in the wind-

[Jguy]

This thread is turning hot.

*grabs a blanket and a cuddle buddy*

I spy a new ACen movie.

[Lina]

Jguy, on 04 February 2011 - 06:22 PM, said:

This thread is turning hot.

*grabs a blanket and a cuddle buddy*

I spy a new ACen movie.

http://www.shanenick...85cdf970b-800wi

[FlyingElf]

Lina, on 04 February 2011 - 06:15 PM, said:

Oh Felf. Let them be jealous of our love. -hair flows in the wind-

Thats just not fair though. How can any of them hope to ever be more awesome than the 2 of us?

Now we need someone to draw a picture of the 2 of us on top of a white horse with a castle in the background. One of us without a shirt, artist's pick.

[Ranko]

I'm sure by now people will see my name and the nature of the thread and expect the worst... but I promise that I'll try not to let my depression get the better of me, and keep with a healthy discussion! If I do not achieve this, I apologize.

I honestly have no idea why I'm single, other than how I look, and if a girl can't overlook that I don't want to be with her anyhow. I've tried the best I can, and even my friends don't understand why I'm single... I mean I'm the kind of guy who gets along with everybody, I just need someone to give me a chance, hehe.

I've tried many times, to no avail, to at least get on a date. I'm assuming I'm doing something wrong, but as I've never gotten a yes, I can't honestly say. That being said, for the moment at least, it doesn't really bother me.

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That's a good point. I went through that phase of desperation, which wasn't helped by some "friends" who were keeping a running score of women they'd slept with, and never missed an opportunity to remind me that I was "way behind." It ruined a potential friendship when I pushed too far and asked the wrong question at the wrong time. She told me to get lost, and I'm glad she did. It would've been bad for both of us had it progressed any farther.

Now? I've reached the "I don't give a damn" stage, and I'm a lot happier. There's no pressure. Sure, I get lonely sometimes. But I tell myself that I'd rather be a little lonely than stuck playing mindgames or worse, stuck in a marriage playing mindgames.

Fujoshi, I've never found an otaku I'd be willing to date. There's not a ton of them in Nowheresville, MT, so my choices would be very limited ones, and the ones I find attractive are already taken. If I lived in a big city like Chicago, maybe things would be different.

Ben Da Mad Irishman
"I'll just propose to Isamu"

I've had that problem before... luckily however, one of my friends attempted to be my "wing man" and saw a pretty brutal rejection that I got, and he convinced the others to stop. I honestly hope I reach the "not giving a damn" phase soon, because these things still get to me some times.

This post has been edited by Ranko: 04 February 2011 - 06:39 PM

[Lina]

FlyingElf, on 04 February 2011 - 06:34 PM, said:

Thats just not fair though. How can any of them hope to ever be more awesome than the 2 of us?

Now we need someone to draw a picture of the 2 of us on top of a white horse with a castle in the background. One of us without a shirt, artist's pick.

I have no response to this epic post. I'm in tears.

I couldn't stop laughing. I tried telling this to my boyfriend on the phone, but it was so hard because I couldn't stop laughing.

I also couldn't choose between these two for a reaction image so I decided to use both. XD

http://img72.imagesh...2/679/42l34.gif

http://i49.tinypic.com/o9ikc0.jpg

[-JUNK-]

Hmmm what keeps me single....
Honestly, havenn't been single a whole lot kept a certain someone with me since I was 16 recently departed. Didnt date the whole time.
But usually running into womanizers, and what not. Gets kindda creepy. Im not as pretty as I want to be but I gotta deal guess thats the girl in me.
Usually I can't be lied to or betrayed kind of a Peeve to me. I have trust issues as well and it takes me a while to start trusting someone.
Other than that im just use to it being just me since distance of the previous significant other.

[wrexness]

-JUNK-, on 04 February 2011 - 07:08 PM, said:

Hmmm what keeps me single....
Honestly, havenn't been single a whole lot kept a certain someone with me since I was 16 recently departed. Didnt date the whole time.
But usually running into womanizers, and what not. Gets kindda creepy. Im not as pretty as I want to be but I gotta deal guess thats the girl in me.
Usually I can't be lied to or betrayed kind of a Peeve to me. I have trust issues as well and it takes me a while to start trusting someone.
Other than that im just use to it being just me since distance of the previous significant other.

*looks over glasses* Ladies~

[-JUNK-]

wrexness, on 04 February 2011 - 08:47 PM, said:

*looks over glasses* Ladies~

OMG stop that~ XD

[SupremeKai]

Let's see having an ex girl friend try to kill herself and myself. So yea been single since then but trying to get out their again but no geek girls out their in the bars

[Aiko☆Noble]

I honestly believe that, if you apply yourself and want to find someone, you will.
Most people don't get together because they wait around too long and don't say a
damn thing, or they don't wait /long enough/ and bail on the person before anything can develop.

I didn't have a steady boyfriend until I was 16/17, and I'm still with him today at 20.
I believe we wouldn't have gotten together if we both hadn't told each other what was up.
I tell everyone I can, and I can't stress this enough - COMMUNICATION IS EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING!
If you don't tell someone how you feel, they're never going to know! Period. Yes, I'm female,
but I absolutely hate the mind games some chicks play with guys. Guys are, well, let's face it,
not used to looking at things "in depth". (Sorry guys, that was a broad generalization, I apologize.)

If a girl has a problem with her boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatevs), SPEAK UP. Get it off
of your chest so you two can talk about it, instead of bottling it inside and waiting for
them to magically know what the hell it is you're angry about.

I can't tell you how many friends I've had talks with about their s/o's, after they're done
getting the whole rant and rave off of their chest, all I have to do is ask one question:
"Did you talk to them about it?" THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS, "...No." This floors me.

Uhm, sorry to turn that in to a rant, I apologize. ;_;

Honestly, if you believe there's only one live to life, why not just give it a shot
and let the person you're crushing on know how you feel? If they're worth your time,
they'll either return your feelings, or be chill about it and you guys can continue
being friends.

[Kasin]

i also think a lot of people stay single because they get use to their way of life, and when another person does something to throw it out of balance, then it could turn that person off from them.

[XenoBlade]

Aiko☆Noble, on 04 February 2011 - 10:29 PM, said:

I honestly believe that, if you apply yourself and want to find someone, you will.
Most people don't get together because they wait around too long and don't say a
damn thing, or they don't wait /long enough/ and bail on the person before anything can develop.

I didn't have a steady boyfriend until I was 16/17, and I'm still with him today at 20.
I believe we wouldn't have gotten together if we both hadn't told each other what was up.
I tell everyone I can, and I can't stress this enough - COMMUNICATION IS EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING!
If you don't tell someone how you feel, they're never going to know! Period. Yes, I'm female,
but I absolutely hate the mind games some chicks play with guys. Guys are, well, let's face it,
not used to looking at things "in depth". (Sorry guys, that was a broad generalization, I apologize.)

If a girl has a problem with her boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatevs), SPEAK UP. Get it off
of your chest so you two can talk about it, instead of bottling it inside and waiting for
them to magically know what the hell it is you're angry about.

I can't tell you how many friends I've had talks with about their s/o's, after they're done
getting the whole rant and rave off of their chest, all I have to do is ask one question:
"Did you talk to them about it?" THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS, "...No." This floors me.

Uhm, sorry to turn that in to a rant, I apologize. ;_;

Honestly, if you believe there's only one live to life, why not just give it a shot
and let the person you're crushing on know how you feel? If they're worth your time,
they'll either return your feelings, or be chill about it and you guys can continue
being friends.

I'm the exact opposite of that generalization. lol XD

I look TOO in depth. lol haha

(for once, I'm not picking on you! lol Enjoy this. lol)

This post has been edited by XenoBlade: 04 February 2011 - 10:39 PM

[MetalGravy]

Hmm, let's see:

Too shy/don't know how to talk to new people (anyone who's seen me at a meet-up can vouch for that).
Like a few others here, I live out in the middle of fraggin' nowhere.
Don't really know where to go to meet people (not a bar person).
Figure there aren't any women my age out here that are single.
Probably a little too focused on looks.


That the con-scene is getting younger certainly doesn't help.

[Lina]

Aiko☆Noble, on 04 February 2011 - 10:29 PM, said:

I honestly believe that, if you apply yourself and want to find someone, you will.
Most people don't get together because they wait around too long and don't say a
damn thing, or they don't wait /long enough/ and bail on the person before anything can develop.

I didn't have a steady boyfriend until I was 16/17, and I'm still with him today at 20.
I believe we wouldn't have gotten together if we both hadn't told each other what was up.
I tell everyone I can, and I can't stress this enough - COMMUNICATION IS EVERYTHING. EVERYTHING!
If you don't tell someone how you feel, they're never going to know! Period. Yes, I'm female,
but I absolutely hate the mind games some chicks play with guys. Guys are, well, let's face it,
not used to looking at things "in depth". (Sorry guys, that was a broad generalization, I apologize.)

If a girl has a problem with her boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatevs), SPEAK UP. Get it off
of your chest so you two can talk about it, instead of bottling it inside and waiting for
them to magically know what the hell it is you're angry about.

I can't tell you how many friends I've had talks with about their s/o's, after they're done
getting the whole rant and rave off of their chest, all I have to do is ask one question:
"Did you talk to them about it?" THE ANSWER IS ALWAYS, "...No." This floors me.

Uhm, sorry to turn that in to a rant, I apologize. ;_;

Honestly, if you believe there's only one live to life, why not just give it a shot
and let the person you're crushing on know how you feel? If they're worth your time,
they'll either return your feelings, or be chill about it and you guys can continue
being friends.

That was beautiful. :'D I agree 100%. No one is a mind reader. You are going to feel even worse if that person NEVER finds out your feelings or if they find out too late. If they don't like you back, then you weren't meant to be in a relationship with them. Don't waste your time fretting.

I'd also like to say that not all girls who are super nice are flirts. There is a difference between being a flirt and being super nice.

My boyfriend lives out in the middle of nowhere, but we make it work. lol Luckily he is only 45-50 minutes away from me and it's an easy drive. Just go straight down 90. XD

This post has been edited by Lina: 04 February 2011 - 10:43 PM

[LordCanti]

every time i put my feelings out for a girl she always seems to put me on hold as a friend even though she gives signs of liking me more then just mere friends =/

[Kasin]

LordCanti, on 04 February 2011 - 10:54 PM, said:

every time i put my feelings out for a girl she always seems to put me on hold as a friend even though she gives signs of liking me more then just mere friends =/

then they may not actually feel the same way, you could be miss reading.

maybe you should try internet dating. I know it sounds weird, but i did it, and got married. plus, you can find people you know are interested in you, and you can't end up in the friend zone.

[Kaay-chan]

Aiko☆Noble, on 04 February 2011 - 10:29 PM, said:

If a girl has a problem with her boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatevs), SPEAK UP. Get it off
of your chest so you two can talk about it, instead of bottling it inside and waiting for
them to magically know what the hell it is you're angry about.

Honestly, I think this applies to more than just romantic relationships. I've had too many platonic relationships explode on me because one or both of us had a problem with the other and didn't communicate. I lost one of my really close friends that way, and I'll never get that back. I mean...we're still friends, but we're not nearly as close as we used to be, and I regret that. A lot.

[Lina]

I would not recommend online dating ESPECIALLY if you prefer to see someone and talk to someone outside of IMing and if you like to see someone often (more than a very short period of time, once a month, once every few months or what have you). I honestly don't like to be away from my boyfriend for a long period of time. I can go a couple of weeks without seeing him, I've done it before, but I prefer to see him often. At least once a week. So I would not do online dating because I like to see my boyfriend physically and be able to hang out, go places, etc.

This sometimes happens:

People can act differently on the computer and the person on the other side wouldn't know it and vise versa. Once they see that they aren't who they were online, it could be a huge turn off and very disappointing and vise versa. It's happened to me before and left a bad taste in my mouth. I wouldn't do it again. If you want to do online dating, go right ahead. There is nothing wrong with it. It's just not for everyone.

I met my boyfriend here on the forums. We met once before we started hanging out. We talked quite a bit via AIM for about a month or so before we started hanging out and dating each other. He would come visit me on campus and we would have picnics and hang out with some mutual friends. It was just lovely. He works out where I live so he comes over for lunch some times or we hang out after he gets off work.

This post has been edited by Lina: 04 February 2011 - 11:29 PM

[Kasin]

that not really online dating as far as a modern sense of the term goes.

thats like an online long distance affair.

website now have find who is the most compatible to you in your area. the only way you won't see them is if your to shy to comfirm the date in person. also, people can lie in real life too.

and it is a fact that one out of every 5 relationships start online.

This post has been edited by Kasin: 04 February 2011 - 11:30 PM