[Wingy Baby]

Xeno- I was earlier bemoaning my dwindling bank account thanks to my cut hours when the dude I'm presently dating offered to buy the thing I wanted to buy for myself for my birthday.
I rejected the offer because...yeah. Just not comfortable receiving gifts - lol.
So I know what you mean.

[tatterpillar]

XenoBlade, on 11 October 2011 - 08:09 PM, said:

I couldn't be like that. I couldn't just get gifts. Whenever someone forces a gift on me, I feel compelled to immediately repay the debt even tho it's not a "debt". lol I'm just that weird one that does things that way. lol

No, I have heard that from others as well. I bought a friend a gift for her birthday because I like to give gifts when I do have the money to spend and when I want to make someone happy. It doesn't mean I'll always be able to do that. I did not buy it thinking I'd be placing a burden on her to buy something for me when my birthday rolled around, but some people just see it that way. Then again, I have met "that" girl who gave me a Christmas card that played a tuno when opened and I didn't get her one (meh, I'm lazy and don't even always mail mine out to fam) and I heard she was griping about it and about the money she spent on it in vain. What the crap is that about?

[The Fujoshi]

@Xeno: Oh I got the impression that some evil girl forced you to buy her candys and celebrate the couple days and what not.

Personally I think sweestest day is a waste of money.

I know what you mean but if you think about it if you buy the person a gift who bought you a gift then they in term is 'in debt,' to you and it starts a cycle. I have been down that path >.<

I stopped buying gifts because I just didn't have a job anymore so I would handmake them then buy them. Like cakes and cookies for Xmas as well as Thanksgiving.

God....on the subject of commerical holidays, the one I hate the most is 'black friday.' To me that's the worse one out of all of them. People died over a 10-20 dollar crockpot.

This post has been edited by The Fujoshi: 12 October 2011 - 11:11 AM

[GITS SAC Motoko]

The Fujoshi, on 12 October 2011 - 11:11 AM, said:

@Xeno: Oh I got the impression that some evil girl forced you to buy her candys and celebrate the couple days and what not.

Personally I think sweestest day is a waste of money.

I know what you mean but if you think about it if you buy the person a gift who bought you a gift then they in term is 'in debt,' to you and it starts a cycle. I have been down that path >.<

I stopped buying gifts because I just didn't have a job anymore so I would handmake them then buy them. Like cakes and cookies for Xmas as well as Thanksgiving.

God....on the subject of commerical holidays, the one I hate the most is 'black friday.' To me that's the worse one out of all of them. People died over a 10-20 dollar crockpot.

I like making handmade gifts too. I usually will give someone a drawing or do a really nice commission for them if they ask me. I always like home made gifts because you know the time and effort put into it makes it more special.

And Black Friday is sad when it comes to commercial Holidays, but again I go out extra early on Black Friday for that reason--the madness. I mean I don't run into the stores (I'm pretty chill just looking for stuff super cheap) but it's still fun and nice to get that one thing you'd like for cheap. But again, maybe it's different for me since Black Friday is usually for me....and only me..... XD.

[XenoBlade]

So I'm not the only one. lol Tho I knew about you Wingy since you told me. lol XD (and me you. lol)

And yeah, tatterpillar, I wouldn't know what to say about that one. lol It'll be like "I'm sorry?" lol It's like there needs to be an even exchange or something. lol XD

And fuji, yeah I'm not scornful or anything. I defintely don't mind giving out stuff, but if I know I've been being used, I dont not hesitate to cut someone off. lol And Yeah, black friday is bad too. Just the stupidity of mankind. I've been to one, (as in just one. lol) and it was okay. It was pretty civil, even at the ghetto walmart where I'm at. lol I rather go to game stop or something if they have a sale. lol

[tatterpillar]

The Fujoshi, on 12 October 2011 - 11:11 AM, said:

I stopped buying gifts because I just didn't have a job anymore so I would handmake them then buy them. Like cakes and cookies for Xmas as well as Thanksgiving.

God....on the subject of commerical holidays, the one I hate the most is 'black friday.' To me that's the worse one out of all of them. People died over a 10-20 dollar crockpot.

I love to make candies and cookies around the holidays and pass them in tins as gifts. They're fun to make, they save money, and people are generally happy to receive tasty treats

Black Friday can get pretty brutal. But you can't beat the deals. I prefer the post Christmas deals though. You aren't as likely to take a 'bow to the ribs from some old lady.

[The Fujoshi]

@tatterpillar: I usually prefer Post Xmas too.

Maybe its because of the fact that I worked Black Fridays and the only thing we changed was a 25 cents difference and people still killed to get to the door. I also learned that many times retail just adjust prices to what they should be than cheaper.

I know someone who wanted to go to GS, sleep out for two days to get a 100 dollar ds lite, (when the DSI/etc. was out,) and a game that was ten bucks cheaper from 60 bucks. Goodness.

@Xeno: I'm trying to understand you and people more. It sounds weird but I ran into extreme examples of people most of my life. Like that guy who was afraid of older women so he hooking up with underage, the black guy who was a player, the ditzy country girl who was rich, etc.

But that's totally off topic

This post has been edited by The Fujoshi: 15 October 2011 - 04:35 PM

[Ramza Beoulve]

I need advice. Preferably from optomistic people. Any takers?

[Steam_Loli216]

Ramza Beoulve, on 12 January 2012 - 10:01 AM, said:

I need advice. Preferably from optomistic people. Any takers?

I'm optimistic and realistic!!

[Ramza Beoulve]

Wingy Baby, on 11 October 2011 - 09:33 PM, said:

Xeno- I was earlier bemoaning my dwindling bank account thanks to my cut hours when the dude I'm presently dating offered to buy the thing I wanted to buy for myself for my birthday.I rejected the offer because...yeah. Just not comfortable receiving gifts - lol. So I know what you mean.

tatterpillar, on 11 October 2011 - 11:24 PM, said:

No, I have heard that from others as well. I bought a friend a gift for her birthday because I like to give gifts when I do have the money to spend and when I want to make someone happy. It doesn't mean I'll always be able to do that. I did not buy it thinking I'd be placing a burden on her to buy something for me when my birthday rolled around, but some people just see it that way. Then again, I have met "that" girl who gave me a Christmas card that played a tuno when opened and I didn't get her one (meh, I'm lazy and don't even always mail mine out to fam) and I heard she was griping about it and about the money she spent on it in vain. What the crap is that about?

GITS SAC Motoko, on 12 October 2011 - 10:58 PM, said:

I like making handmade gifts too. I usually will give someone a drawing or do a really nice commission for them if they ask me. I always like home made gifts because you know the time and effort put into it makes it more special. ^_^And Black Friday is sad when it comes to commercial Holidays, but again I go out extra early on Black Friday for that reason--the madness. I mean I don't run into the stores (I'm pretty chill just looking for stuff super cheap) but it's still fun and nice to get that one thing you'd like for cheap. But again, maybe it's different for me since Black Friday is usually for me....and only me..... XD.

Basically a reply to all these related posts. I made something for my gf for valentines day and sent a couple small items with it. She didn't want me to get her anything "I'm broke and its not necessary". That's hardly the point. It may be a "commercial holiday", but still and all I sent something. Then right away she was like "Well what am I supposed to get you?" and I'm like "Don't get me anything, just 'cause you got me something" that's not how it works. You do/get something for someone 'cause you love em and enjoy giving to them. I don't expect anything expensive. If someone made me a paper flower, or something done by hand...even just a hand written letter would make me feel pretty good. It also makes someone feel like a TON OF CRAP when you tell them that you can't/wont accept gifts. Its a very dejected feeling. All I can say is be happy with what someone gives you and if they love you they'll be happy with whatever you give...even if its a thimble. ;D

[Wingy Baby]

Haha, someone pressed the mass resurrection button and it wasn't me~

You have to remember, girls have a lot of conflicting ideals ingrained in their head concerning gift giving.
She can want gifts, but she can't accept them if it's too much because what if the guy expects something sexy back? She can want gifts, but she can't be too greedy because what if she looks like a gold digger? She can want gifts, but she should really be independent enough to buy her own without relying on a man (that one is my favorite).
See the problem?


Let's also not forget our American gift giving habits of giving something to someone of equal value to what you received - the payback debt. In a lot of Asian cultures, that simply isn't done. The gift you're giving to someone must be better than what you received. I made the mistake once of giving cookies to my Sensei. She gave me a complete manga set of a karate series...

It all depends at the end of the day and the best way of knowing is listening and if she says no gifts, get/make something really small she won't be able to complain about too much. :>

[Ramza Beoulve]

The Fujoshi, on 01 March 2011 - 12:03 PM, said:

I mean on the girl end. You should know from the singles thread on what I am working with

But if you don't basically we are like Romeo and Juilet; his parents hate me because I'm black and refuse his son to see me or txt me or anything on the threat of kicking him out and attempting to sue me for thift because I was there. He's still talking to me but he has gotten REALLY emo since he first met me. He doesn't do the heart thing anymore and he...'complains,' a lot. We have been dating for like almost five months now.

My question is kasin how should I handle his personality? Give him more space? He hates talking in txts even though we talked in txt almost everyday in the past. I thought about calling him more since he does act NORMAL over the phone compared to txt messages but my phone is basically a crappy government phone.

Doesn't it suck when the other person is like @!$@#!%@#^#!$^!!? What I mean to say is...you give your 100% and they give you crap.

This post has been edited by Ramza Beoulve: 09 March 2012 - 08:07 AM

[Kii]

Wingy Baby, on 13 February 2012 - 02:54 PM, said:

You have to remember, girls have a lot of conflicting ideals ingrained in their head concerning gift giving.
She can want gifts, but she can't accept them if it's too much because what if the guy expects something sexy back?

Then you give it to him, obviously.
No, seriously, that's a sort of screwed up mentality. If a guy gave me a gift with the sole purpose being to get into my pants, I'd probably take the gift.And then leave.
On another note:Immediately started thinking of the song "Sexy Back".

[Shaherah]

This post has been edited by Shaherah: 23 March 2012 - 06:21 PM

[basili1250]

Gift giving's origins center around a display of excessive wealth which can be given without obstructing that of the giver (hence it's representation of wealth) and yes, a gift to be given in turn.

But things have changed. Sometimes people give gifts because they believe it's the right thing to do. That's all