[Ranko]

Well, the main problem is my job has been cut to extremely low hours, and my mom is giving me all the help she can just so I can get by. My dad is too busy being controlled by his wife to think about me, so he's out. To be honest, if I can at least get them to cut down on the shenanigans, I only have to be here until February, with two holiday breaks in between.

[Krystal]

My roommates have been keeping me up until 2am almost every night, so I usually have to go sleep on the floor of my dorm hall's study lounge. They always have their friends in the room yelling, and they won't even let me shut the lights off until they're done.

This is fine, except since people can see into there, I am made fun of for being the wierdo who sleeps on the floor. I've tried to bring it up, but they said since they don't impose their party life on me, I shouldn't impose my conservative life on them. I feel as though they DO impose their lifestyle on me though, because they make me stay up until they're done partying. So I just get the tiredness from it, not the fun.

This morning, my boyfriend had to leave at like 5:30 in the morning, so last night,one of my roommates slept in her friend's room, and was very bitchy to me, saying that it's not fair that he should wake up everyone that early. But he was quiet, and nobody, including me, woke up when he left. Why do they get to dictate when I can and cannot sleep every night, and I can't have my boyfriend over once a month?

I wake up at 6, and cannot be healthy with <4 hours of sleep a night. I don't know what to do. I mean, I know it's freshman year, but even so, I cannot afford to be falling asleep during classes. I tried to apologize for needing more sleep than that, and even today for my boyfriend leaving early, but my roommate flat-out ignored me. The study room is starting to be used more too, so I don't know where to sleep, and it's making me a wreck.

EDIT: Sorry for the long complaint, but any advice would be appreciated. I just DON'T want to have to go through a roommate change.

This post has been edited by Krystal: 27 September 2010 - 09:36 AM

[Lina]

Tell to take their partying elsewhere and that you are losing sleep because they party every night til 2am. Tell them that they do impose their lifestyle on you! Let them know! I would also request a new roommate for next semester if nothing gets solved.

[FlyingElf]

Moving out is always an option. Even if you can't afford it, talk to your parents, explain the situation, maybe they can help you out. At worst you can always hole up in your room and sit on your computer. Basically have no interaction with them outside of getting a drink out of the fridge. It sounds like its an ugly situation though.

[IchigoKitKat]

I feel your pain man. I ended up moving out and back to my mom's house because my roommates sucked. Until next year I will be moving out and going to a far away college with a dormitory. It sucks having more than one roommate because they both end up talking behind your back. Next time just get one roommate if you plan on moving away, that way they don't have anyone to talk to besides you in the household.

[Ranko]

FlyingElf, on 27 September 2010 - 01:55 PM, said:

Moving out is always an option. Even if you can't afford it, talk to your parents, explain the situation, maybe they can help you out. At worst you can always hole up in your room and sit on your computer. Basically have no interaction with them outside of getting a drink out of the fridge. It sounds like its an ugly situation though.

Whoa my thread is alive again, lol.

As to the quote, sadly this is pretty much what I've been doing whether it was aimed at me or not XD, I have been attempting to give them back what they give me by way of inviting my friends over to be loud, seems to be working since it makes them angry... Thank God I only have five months until graduation, lol.

Krystal, on 27 September 2010 - 09:25 AM, said:

My roommates have been keeping me up until 2am almost every night, so I usually have to go sleep on the floor of my dorm hall's study lounge. They always have their friends in the room yelling, and they won't even let me shut the lights off until they're done.

This is fine, except since people can see into there, I am made fun of for being the wierdo who sleeps on the floor. I've tried to bring it up, but they said since they don't impose their party life on me, I shouldn't impose my conservative life on them. I feel as though they DO impose their lifestyle on me though, because they make me stay up until they're done partying. So I just get the tiredness from it, not the fun.

This morning, my boyfriend had to leave at like 5:30 in the morning, so last night,one of my roommates slept in her friend's room, and was very bitchy to me, saying that it's not fair that he should wake up everyone that early. But he was quiet, and nobody, including me, woke up when he left. Why do they get to dictate when I can and cannot sleep every night, and I can't have my boyfriend over once a month?

I wake up at 6, and cannot be healthy with <4 hours of sleep a night. I don't know what to do. I mean, I know it's freshman year, but even so, I cannot afford to be falling asleep during classes. I tried to apologize for needing more sleep than that, and even today for my boyfriend leaving early, but my roommate flat-out ignored me. The study room is starting to be used more too, so I don't know where to sleep, and it's making me a wreck.

EDIT: Sorry for the long complaint, but any advice would be appreciated. I just DON'T want to have to go through a roommate change.

I sympathize with you, as I'm still having troubles as well...

This post has been edited by Ranko: 27 September 2010 - 11:50 PM

[Emberlynn]

whether you want to change or not - you have to put your health first. In addressing the situation, it would be best to leave "fair" out of the conversation. you're not talking to your parents, or adults, for that matter. These are children.

Should 'talking' to these miscreants not work - you MUST MUST MUST talk to the RA, or, if you feel the RA is a friend of your roommates, you're going to have to ask for a change. It's not uncommon for the first 'match up' of room share to be a fail. There's no shame in admitting that.

[Ranko]

Emberlynn, on 28 September 2010 - 08:07 AM, said:

whether you want to change or not - you have to put your health first. In addressing the situation, it would be best to leave "fair" out of the conversation. you're not talking to your parents, or adults, for that matter. These are children.

Should 'talking' to these miscreants not work - you MUST MUST MUST talk to the RA, or, if you feel the RA is a friend of your roommates, you're going to have to ask for a change. It's not uncommon for the first 'match up' of room share to be a fail. There's no shame in admitting that.

What exactly should I do if one of my roommates IS the RA? Specifically, the extremely loud one that keeps me up at night -.-/

[JoeSomebody2]

Ranko, on 28 September 2010 - 04:48 PM, said:

What exactly should I do if one of my roommates IS the RA? Specifically, the extremely loud one that keeps me up at night -.-/

Going up the chain of command sounds like a good idea. This isn't the army, where in you're scorned and tortured for jumping out of place. This is college, and he's a student with a job to do. If your RA is being a horrible RA, someone up command should know about that. Big time.

Though I'm sure this was already thought of, so I'm probably being redundant. Don't mind me. Just walking through...

[Ranko]

JoeSomebody2, on 01 October 2010 - 07:09 PM, said:

Going up the chain of command sounds like a good idea. This isn't the army, where in you're scorned and tortured for jumping out of place. This is college, and he's a student with a job to do. If your RA is being a horrible RA, someone up command should know about that. Big time.

Though I'm sure this was already thought of, so I'm probably being redundant. Don't mind me. Just walking through...

I've tried this already, the housing director is all buddy buddy with our RA.... and corporate doesn't care at all about what we tell them.

[JoeSomebody2]

Ranko, on 03 October 2010 - 01:53 AM, said:

I've tried this already, the housing director is all buddy buddy with our RA.... and corporate doesn't care at all about what we tell them.

Just another example of a broken and corrupt college system then? Shame. You'd think the school would try to do whatever they could to keep it from becoming a hostile environment. Sadly, reality is always a kick to the nuts.

[MishaB]

I stayed in on-campus housing for my freshmen year in college, I will NEVER do it again.

My school made this big deal out of filling out a questionnaire about our lifestyles so that they may pair students up with people who have a similar lifestyle (quiet people with other quiet people, smokers with people who smoke, blah blah blah). I'm guessing they just decided to ignore the questionnaires all together because come the day we were suppose to move in, I got stuck with 2 roommates I couldn't stand for the life of me. There were 4 of us in a 2 bedroom apartment. The girl I was sharing a room with was actually pretty cool and we got along. The other two...I swear their parents must have been hyenas.

The girl I roomed with got sick to the point she had to withdraw from school and return to her home in Michigan. SO the housing department paired a new girl into our room which I got stuck having to deal with. The new girl combined with the 2 I already couldn't stand...*shudders* Lets just say I had many fantasies about pushing all of them out of our apartment window (pull open window, no screens, and we're on the 22nd floor of a 30 floor building).

These girls seriously had no respect for me. My classes started at 8:30am, I'd go to bed about 9pm to get up on time. They had the TV blasting, laughing like frikkin hyenas, rollerblading in the apartment, having friends over at like 1 in the morning. The new girl I got stuck sharing rooms with would come in and use her laptop which always lit up the entire damn room when I was trying to sleep. When I left for the weekend to see my parents, they would have friends stay the weekend in my room, in my bed, and let them use my toiletries without even bothering to tell me before hand they had someone staying over. Not to mention the fun task of these girls stealing my food when I was gone.

I was in the same situation where we couldn't change roommates unless it was a dire situation life we were going to kill each other. Once that year was over: I transferred schools and put up with commuting in over staying on-campus again.

This post has been edited by MishaB: 04 November 2010 - 12:16 AM