[Ranko]

Sooo anyone else having/ever had roommate issues? I seriously hate mine, and I know that they don't like me either. We just play the pretend to like each other game all day. My two other roommates get along with each other just fine, I seem to be the odd man out in this equation. Funny thing is, I don't think they know I know they don't like me. I managed to get some recordings of their conversations while I'm not around, needless to say they weren't pretty. No sooner than 4 minutes after leaving the room the conversation turns to how they hate me for simply asking them if they thought a video game they were playing was good enough for me to pick a copy up for myself. Apparently asking for some friendly advice to people that hate you is annoying. It's quite troublesome having to put on the facade of someone who cares, lest I look like the bad guy in the equation. Needless to say I'm a little scared to take a stand simply because I don't want a three on one fight, two roommates and one of their friends who is always around. Anyone ever go through something like this and wanna give me some advice? Or even simple share stories about your experiences with roommates, I need to discuss things at the moment so that I can vent my frustration out through peaceful conversation via the internet XD.

[Prayer Police]

Looks like you pulled a George Costanza on them.

I say, try to have a heart-to-heart with each of them individually.
From the get go, confront them of your knowledge of all the animosity towards you.
I don't mean confront like an intervention but just have a calm, civil conversation.
Reassure them that they can admit the truth without any repercussions.
Your goal is to calmly get them to admit it with as much civility as possible.
If they vehemently deny it, try not to slap the douchebaggery out of them.
You then may have to confront them with the tape only if you have more convincing, hateful recording.
Let each of them know you're going to have the same one-on-one conversation with the other roommate.
Then have a roommate meeting, minus the third stooge.
If the three of you can't come up with a solution or if the meeting becomes hostile towards you, just get new roommates.

[TaiyakiOni]

You should try to make peace, in failure of that make war and hide the bodies before you get new room mates.

Wait killing people is still illegal isn't it...

Ok, try and make peace, and if that fails then it's time to start looking for a new room mate.

Make sure to stand up for yourself and show them that your not going to be a pushover! If your not happy there then staying isn't a good idea, and depending on which name is on the lease, you or they may have to go in failure to reach a peace agreement.

I lucked out with my room mate, we'd been friend for a few years before hand and we pretty much mind ourselves and when we do socialize its over beer, tv, and video games.

[ImNewHere]

If it's your place get new ones, if it is theirs then get a new place. You should not have to go home and try to relax in a place that is hostile to you.

[Ranko]

Sadly, getting new roommates is not an option... Our apartment comes through a housing company linked with our college. They only allow you to move once, before they charge you a $250 fee for moving. Confronting them is out too, even in a civil manner, these guys will resort to violence before they even think of being civil themselves. I remember a few weeks ago, one of the roommates and I exchanged black eyes over a simple comment I made about a CARTOON, on adult swim....

[redx1]

As many of you know, I've given up on having roommate. I live alone and I will continue to live alone until the day I get married. I was looking for my old post, but I can't seem to find it. I'll retell the story (the short version.)

My last roommate moved from California because he got a job in Chicago. Generally he was a pretty upstanding guy (so I thought.) He lived with me for about 3 months and got fired from his job. I felt bad for him so I started to cover his bills until he found a new job. I told him specifically that he needed to pay me the money back because I'm just simply loaning him money so he can survive until he got a new job. One day I came home from work and found him and most of his belongings gone. The guy walked out on a lease on me and owed me $1200 since I was covering his bills. I never heard from him again.

Yeah, I hate roommates.

[obakasan]

I had about 50/50 luck with room mates in college. The last two years I had a single room. Heaven.

[Ranko]

obakasan, on 07 June 2010 - 11:32 AM, said:

I had about 50/50 luck with room mates in college. The last two years I had a single room. Heaven.

OMG if only I could have my own room/apartment. I'm to the point where I've slept in my car just so I wouldn't have to go inside and deal with those guys. All they do is make fun of me, all the time. It doesn't help that I'm depressed, and have been since high school... but seriously you know its bad when you don't even want to go home.

[sentinel28a]

Ranko, you seriously need to move out. Pay the penalty, move back with the parents, do something...but you are in a bad situation that will only get worse. If these losers are willing to resort to violence, then you are their biyatch, and soon things will start turning up missing because they think you won't do anything about it.

I was in this situation for about three years, and it was hell. The only way I was able to deal with it was to basically wall myself off from my roommate, talk to him only when absolutely necessary, and lock my door every time I went out and at night. It took him two more years to get the message before he left. But yeah, he was pretty much the same sort of person you're describing.

Ben Da Mad Irishman

[redx1]

Ranko, on 07 June 2010 - 02:57 PM, said:

...but seriously you know its bad when you don't even want to go home.

If that's how you feel, then you NEED to leave. It's going to drive you insane. You should never feel unwelcome in your own home. It may be expensive to move out on your own or depressing to move back in with your parents, but it sounds like the situation is only going to get worse.

[Ranko]

Moving back in with my mother sounds like so much awesome right now, but that would give me a 300 mile commute to college. About the thievery, it's already happened, and I just stole my stuff back as well as some of their stuff. After that it never happened again, because I went off on them one by one. It would seem I'm quite scary in a one on one situation but as a group they can take me.

Trust me if I had the money to pay the penalty I would, but this housing company charges me $450 a month in rent, and my rent is going up again next month. I do thank you for your advice though, I've already gone into lockdown mode, which was not your advice, I don't think, but I have. I've stopped responding to anything they say with anything more than a "huh?". The recordings I've done have proved they know they I know they don't like me, but they still believe I think we are all friends, if that makes any sense lol.

[Lina]

I say go to another college that's by your parent's place if it's really this bad. You shouldn't have to deal with that crap.

[Ranko]

I've only got 2 semesters left before I graduate, there's no sense in leaving now, although I have thought about it. Besides I do have friends that actually attend the same classes as I do, there are about 15 of us who always take the same classes and we usually hang out and do stuff after class which is nice, its just my home life which is bad.

[Lina]

You could always sleep over at your friends' places every so often just to get out of your apartment.

[opimus.rm]

[quote name='Ranko' date='07 June 2010 - 12:27 AM' timestamp='1275888424' post='921175']
Sooo anyone else having/ever had roommate issues? I seriously hate mine, and I know that they don't like me either. We just play the pretend to like each other game all day. My two other roommates get along with each other just fine, I seem to be the odd man out in this equation. Funny thing is, I don't think they know I know they don't like me. I managed to get some recordings of their conversations while I'm not around, needless to say they weren't pretty. No sooner than 4 minutes after leaving the room the conversation turns to how they hate me for simply asking them if they thought a video game they were playing was good enough for me to pick a copy up for myself. Apparently asking for some friendly advice to people that hate you is annoying. It's quite troublesome having to put on the facade of someone who cares, lest I look like the bad guy in the equation. Needless to say I'm a little scared to take a stand simply because I don't want a three on one fight, two roommates and one of their friends who is always around. Anyone ever go through something like this and wanna give me some advice? Or even simple share stories about your experiences with roommates, I need to discuss things at the moment so that I can vent my frustration out through peaceful conversation via the internet XD.
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You better not tell them that you recorded them . If you tell them this fact it will just make matters worse and could you could be in line for a lawsuit.

[Ranko]

opimus.rm, on 07 June 2010 - 03:25 PM, said:

Ranko, on 06 June 2010 - 11:27 PM, said:

Sooo anyone else having/ever had roommate issues? I seriously hate mine, and I know that they don't like me either. We just play the pretend to like each other game all day. My two other roommates get along with each other just fine, I seem to be the odd man out in this equation. Funny thing is, I don't think they know I know they don't like me. I managed to get some recordings of their conversations while I'm not around, needless to say they weren't pretty. No sooner than 4 minutes after leaving the room the conversation turns to how they hate me for simply asking them if they thought a video game they were playing was good enough for me to pick a copy up for myself. Apparently asking for some friendly advice to people that hate you is annoying. It's quite troublesome having to put on the facade of someone who cares, lest I look like the bad guy in the equation. Needless to say I'm a little scared to take a stand simply because I don't want a three on one fight, two roommates and one of their friends who is always around. Anyone ever go through something like this and wanna give me some advice? Or even simple share stories about your experiences with roommates, I need to discuss things at the moment so that I can vent my frustration out through peaceful conversation via the internet XD.

You better not tell them that you recorded them . If you tell them this fact it will just make matters worse and could you could be in line for a lawsuit.

lol I had no plans on ever telling them, in fact I've already deleted the recordings after listening to them. As far as anything is concerned those things never existed lol.

This post has been edited by Ranko: 07 June 2010 - 03:28 PM

[Jguy]

I had a similar situation which had actually caused me to move back in with my parents.

I was the primary on the bills, they were all in my name (big mistake and not, see below). It was nice because I knew they were going to get paid...but bad because people don't quite pay you on time....>.<

Long story short, consistantly, one roomate would be extremly late on paying bills (like...15-20 days late). I threatened to kick him out but he never took it seriously. He always left the house a mess and never picked up after himself. He kept his stuff EVERYWHERE around the house and never in his own bedroom and he didn't find anything wrong with that...

So...one month he bought a new gun and then somehow didn't have enough money for rent or utilities at the end of the month and in the same month owed me some backpay for last month and bought this gun without paying debt back first, so I cancelled all the utilities, told the landlord where I was going and who to contact for rent that month and walked out. They were all gone (one was camping, one was at work and the trouble one was out with his parents). Needless to say they came home to a nasty note written in permanent marker and my room completly empty. 2 days later the water pressure was non-existant, they didn't have cable or electricity and the gas got shutoff. I took all the deposits from the utilities and never gave them any of that money back.

[Prayer Police]

Ranko, on 07 June 2010 - 08:01 AM, said:

Sadly, getting new roommates is not an option... Our apartment comes through a housing company linked with our college. They only allow you to move once, before they charge you a $250 fee for moving. Confronting them is out too, even in a civil manner, these guys will resort to violence before they even think of being civil themselves. I remember a few weeks ago, one of the roommates and I exchanged black eyes over a simple comment I made about a CARTOON, on adult swim....

Wow, seriously? That's just wrong and highlarious at the same time.
Who punches people over a cartoon?
These guys seem a little too unreal.

If you already used the "kill them with kindness" strategy and failed, you're really on your last resort.
And this is ONLY for a last resort.
Stand your ground and take no BS from them anymore.
Just don't give a crap about them anymore and let them know it.
Have a sharp wit and give them 'tude every chance you get.
An aggressive attitude can really boost your confidence and be empowering. Can be applicable in almost every aspect of life.
I don't condone violence but maybe that's the only thing these thugs respond to.

[JoeSomebody2]

Dag yo! You make my own situation with roommates seem small. I'm almost a little embarrassed I made a video series of the issues we've had. At least I had the luck to find a roommate who is awesome and capable of communicating with me. My home actually feels like a home, rather than a shared homestead. Living with people...it's no joke!

[Emberlynn]

I've had my share of roommate issues. I don't care what I have to do -- if it kills me ... I'm living alone. Yeah, that means I can't live in a swanky apartment ... but that also means I don't have to deal with the baggage that goes with it.

two semesters is how long?

[JoeSomebody2]

Recently spoke with friend who wanted a home of their own, and...while I thought it would be a good idea to move in with someone else, in order to learn from the experience and save on some money over time, I wonder if it's the best choice. It's what I would like to happen, so as the above mentioned things to happen, but...I'd hate a bad experience to occur, and ruin such high expectations and great possibilities. Can't really control that though, so...try and see where it leads?

[Ranko]

Two semesters is 34 weeks, with only 2 weeks of break during the entire time. After that I need only move somewhere else and look for a job -.-

[Ranko]

Just as an update I want to say how nice it is being back home in Ohio for my two week summer break lol... I don't know how much longer I could have lasted with those guys.

[Emberlynn]

yeah That's a long time to live with asshats. any chance someone will let you bunk with them?

[Ranko]

Not that I can think of, all my good friends have pretty heft commutes to school.

[Ranko]

Sorry to necro my thread, but I felt creating a new one would be pointless...

As an update... things have gotten worse...

One of my roommates is now an RA with the housing company we live through and is attempting to exact some authority that he thinks he has over me... Not to mention I've not been able to sleep for the past 4 days.... they refuse to let me. Constant screaming into the early morning hours, it's like they take shifts just to torture me. Last night as I finally thought I could get some sleep, my roommate kept throwing pillows at me and pretending to be asleep when I called him on it. I just can't take this anymore... I wish I could move so bad, but I've used up all my chances... How cold does your heart have to be to deprive someone of even sleep?

EDIT:I know I need to leave, but I just can't find the money to pay the fine... I know talking about it here won't solve much, but at least getting it off my chest makes it feel a little better.

This post has been edited by Ranko: 08 August 2010 - 03:37 AM

[KirbyFanOne]

Ranko, on 08 August 2010 - 03:33 AM, said:

EDIT:I know I need to leave, but I just can't find the money to pay the fine... I know talking about it here won't solve much, but at least getting it off my chest makes it feel a little better.

How much is the fine? Perhaps someone will start the "Help Ranko Move Out of His Situation" Fund.

[GITS SAC Motoko]

Ranko, on 08 August 2010 - 03:33 AM, said:

Sorry to necro my thread, but I felt creating a new one would be pointless...

As an update... things have gotten worse...

One of my roommates is now an RA with the housing company we live through and is attempting to exact some authority that he thinks he has over me... Not to mention I've not been able to sleep for the past 4 days.... they refuse to let me. Constant screaming into the early morning hours, it's like they take shifts just to torture me. Last night as I finally thought I could get some sleep, my roommate kept throwing pillows at me and pretending to be asleep when I called him on it. I just can't take this anymore... I wish I could move so bad, but I've used up all my chances... How cold does your heart have to be to deprive someone of even sleep?

EDIT:I know I need to leave, but I just can't find the money to pay the fine... I know talking about it here won't solve much, but at least getting it off my chest makes it feel a little better.

Really sorry to hear that.
But, can't you talk to Res. Life and tell them your story? THIS is not acceptable for them to fine you with all you been through. I say, tell Res Life the story in a calm, not whining (not saying you whine, but you know what i mean lol) and civilly tell them the situation. SAY that they are affecting you studies by getting no sleep, and you do not feel safe in school or the dorm living with the roommates. If you bring up that you feel unsafe, threatened, and your studies are suffering, they will do what they can to move you or let you move out.This happened to my best friend where his roommate kept leaving the door open and even stole his stuff and would hold parties in the room without notifying him. And he told Res Life and they moved him to another room with another person. I am not sure you tried that, but give it a go if you can.

Best of luck, and keep us updated, we are all concerned about you and your situation. I'm sure Res Life can give your roommates a kick in the booty. No one deserves what youre going through. ^^

[Ranko]

I doubt things are over, but a little after I made that post I kind of snapped, probably due to lack of sleep. I just started throwing things and yelling, I even woke up the neighbors, but they finally allowed me to get some sleep. I feel so much better now.

[Kaay-chan]

So, put simply, you fear for your safty (and possibly your sanity) correct? I'd say, plead your case with the company and see if they won't waive the fee, or at least lower it. You might also want to contact your school and see if there's anything they can do.

If nothing else, would it be possible for you to borrow money from your parents? I assume they know how bad your situation is...